I agree that she has to hear the actual word, "no". I also like, "I don't like to go to home parties, and I make it a policy to not host them."
On the purse issue, I had heard that it was a way to feed the drug cartels and launder drug money......since I don't change purses to match my outfit, I am not going to spend money on the real ones or the fake ones. My wallet works well enough.
