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« on: November 20, 2006, 09:46:52 AM »

The reason I ask this is because I will have been in MK for 6 years in Feb.  The last few days I have been feeling really bad wishing I had wised up sooner.  There are of course somethings that I got out of MK that I wouldn't change but I still feel like I wasted so much time.  MK put a strain on my marriage and my family.  Since coming out of the pink fog I have decided to go back to college.  I wish I had made this decision sooner because then I would already be done in school.  I just feel like I wasted the last 6 years on something so stupid which in turn makes me feel stupid.  I know I can't turn back time.  I just wish I won't have been so stubborn.  I remember one day sitting in my office chair thinking of another job that I would like to do.  But then I realized if I went back to school it would be like admitting that I failed at MK.  I was so not ready for that and that point in time.  Since then I have realized that I didn't give up on MK.  I know I could have become a director but at what cost?  Anyways, I know I am rambling but my dh doesn't always understand how I feel.  Did anyone else feel this way?  How long did it take to get over it?
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« Reply #1 on: November 20, 2006, 10:10:51 AM »

yes! You need to read the stories posted here- the former director stories, etc. You should notice a theme- and basically, most everyone here felt pretty much like you, if they allowed themselves to get really into the pink fog, like me an dlike many others on this site did. It took me a long time even after I left to admit that I thought it was all a scam. that doesn't mean that I think all the women in MK are scam artists, just some of them are to their own knowledge, but the women are being scammed into believing this pink fairytale. It sounds too good to be true, but we're assured that it really is true, they tell you what it's done for their family, their financial situation, their life, etc, and we believe b/c it's other women, like us, sharing this with us! so we buy it hook line an sinker and we fall right in.
don't beat yourself up. admit to yourself, your family, etc that you have wised up, admit to them how you feel you spent too much time at it, or whatever it is you feel bad about. admit to your husband what you really think of mk- just get it out there. you reallywill feel better.
tell your story on this site- look for introductions of new members here and share with them to help them out- it will help you as well.
yes, it will get better. but you cant keep looking back and beating yourself up. I'm still paying off debt from my MK days, and will be for another year, maybe two- but that's it, I'm getting it paid off and thats the end of the story- I can't keep feeling bad about it.
i sold stuff on ebay, got rid of anything MK related in my house, and that felt good. I got a little money for it all- and hey, used it to make a cc payment---
just keep moving forward. you'velearned something from this, now you can help others. smiley
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« Reply #2 on: November 20, 2006, 10:34:04 AM »

Try not too let it bother you too much for a couple of reasons...

1)  Obviously, you can't go back so don't let MK take any MORE time from you in the way of hurting for time lost.

2)  We usually don't know what God has planned for us, or why we had to make the mistakes we've made until much further down the road.  Looking back on my life through "eyes of faith" instead of hate...I can see cleary the reasons things happened the way they did in my past.  That doesn't mean the mistakes will hurt less, just be easier to see past.

3) Now that you DO have your life back....you can appreciate it even more knowing what you may have taken for granted prior to MK.


With that said, I am sorry that you went through what you did and hope that you have a fabulous and  happytg !!!   bighug bighug
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« Reply #3 on: November 20, 2006, 12:59:27 PM »

Oh, absolutely I wish I could turn back time so I didn't have to think about what a fool I must have looked like to my family and friends  smiley  But, what is done is done - now I'm just happy to be free.  I also went back to school this year and am feeling really good about myself.  It's been a ton of hard work to "undo" a lot of the MK stuff, but it's getting done  smiley  It will take a while to get over it all, but eventually it just seems to fade away - I've only been out of the fog for about 9 months, but I'm not dwelling on it nearly as much as I did for the first few months.  Good Luck!  You'll make it out!  smiley 
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« Reply #4 on: November 20, 2006, 01:29:35 PM »

I just feel like I wasted the last 6 years on something so stupid which in turn makes me feel stupid.

Outofthefog, I think we may have similar stories.  I've been in 5 1/2 and know I could have been a director too.  I could just never get over the hump to get it done.  Everytime I would really start working, I'd get majorly stressed out and shut down.  I am so thankful for that now.  I have felt stupid the last few months after seeing the scripts, events, etc for what they are.  It's at those times when this site and PT's have been so helpful.  You are not stupid and neither is anyone else that got sucked in.
Take the lessons and the good things that came out of it and use them to move onward and upward!!  Good luck with school!!!
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« Reply #5 on: November 20, 2006, 05:00:08 PM »

I think the hardest thing for me about my Mary Kay experience was the deceit.
Not deceit from any of the directors above me or other consultants, but from the company itself.  It hurts because almost every lady I met within MK seemed genuinely nice, but all deceived.  That is what is painful, many really are good Christian women who think the company is all it claims to be, and think the company really is looking out for them.  Most of the ones I know started using MK because their mom's used MK and they are trying to support a good "Christian" company.  But when I try to talk to them about my own misgivings, they can't see them.  It's almost like asking them not to trust their own mother. crying
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« Reply #6 on: November 29, 2006, 09:35:47 AM »

No, I don't want to turn back time.  I have learned from my mistakes, and frankly, I would have made other mistakes during that time even if I didn't make the MK mistake.  Perhaps those would have been worse decisions.  No point in worrying about it, just dust off and move forward.
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« Reply #7 on: November 29, 2006, 11:27:52 AM »

I think that we must all try to always look forward but use those past mistakes as a lessons learned.  While they were not pleasant lessons, think of the growth we have all experienced and we are better women because of them.   bighug
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« Reply #8 on: December 02, 2006, 01:34:06 AM »

Outofthefog! Even though i don't regret being in Mk because I experience a lot of personal growth. I do sometimes think that I wasted 3 years of my life because I also wanted to go to school...
That was actually the main reason I started because I had hopes that I could do Mk on the side so that I can go to school and still make some money without having to go to work while studying and I think back and I probably would've had like only 1 year left to finish..
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But, I guess even though is hard to deal with, i try to look at it from the positive side....

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« Reply #9 on: December 02, 2006, 01:41:11 AM »

I have to say for me I wouldn't turn back time!  I learned so much while I was in mk.  I feel I am a better wife, mom, friend, daughter, sister ect. for the many things I learned!!  One of the main things I learned was who am I and it's ok to be just me!  I deserve to be loved and to love!!  I am who I am, take it or leave it!!  Thank you Mary Kay Ash for at least giving me that! 
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