I need some help, and I thought that I could find some advice from you fabulous ladies about how to handle it.
My recruiter, who is also a dear friend, wants to be a director so bad; it's all she talks about. The funny thing is that 4 months ago she was about to send her product back! She lost her job and really needed the money and told me, "I'm sending it all back and I'll buy my product from you. I'll even give you my customer list." Then she got a severance package from her lost job and spent $2,000 on products to be a Star last quarter! I was shocked. She never really talked to me about it or anything, just started going to meetings again and now has these huge goals.
I know that our director got a hold of her. >:( We both met with her about some questions we had (thanks to forums like this one) and our director had a comeback for every thing we said. Now, my recruiter and director talk almost every day, go shopping together (they were wearing the same shoes at the last meeting I went to
)and recruiter wants to be a director by October.
She currently has 2 active team members (me and one other personal use consultant) and 3 inactive consultants and 2 terminated, who signed up and never even went through New Consultant Orientation. She has told me that she doesn't want to work for anyone again and is going to make MK her full-time job. She has even made negative comments about my job (and we used to work together!) and how I need to get out of there. I work for a Fortune 500 Best Company in America! I'm NOT going anywhere!
I just really need to talk to her about how I feel she's changed, because she doesn't see it. Because she's a good friend, it makes it even harder to be honest with her. I don't want to destroy her, but I need to her see she's not being a good person right now and she's changed a lot in the last 3 months.
She contacted another friend (let's call her J) of ours (who is her personal use consultant) to ask her if they could trade some products that J doesn't need. Then our recruiter would like J to purchase the new products she wants and recruiter would pay for it! I was shocked. My friend/recruiter is a very Godly woman who I always believed had the purest of intentions and beliefs and now she is calling J and practically begging her to help her since "the end of the month is coming and I want to achieve my goals" were her actual words. :
A week or so ago I found out she purchased another $600 in products (including 21 Even Complexion Essences to 'achieve the company challenge'). She already has over $4,000 in product in her house! And she has nothing booked to sell this stuff. . . I know, I know. . . same old story. It's just so troubling when you see someone you love heading down a path that leads to destruction. It's just not a path of destruction that many people recognize.
How can I talk to her about this without destroying the friendship or alienating her? I don't want to ruin her dream, but I know deep down she can't do it and that our director is going to push her deeper in debt (when she's not working!) and my friend will come to me for support. :(
Thanks for any help and for reading my mile long post! :-[
