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« on: October 04, 2006, 02:58:33 AM » |
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So I had this friend, and she was/ is really self-important, snobby, rude, etc. We had fights. We made up. We had a big fight. We didn't talk for a long time. And for some unknown reason, I emailed her the other night and apologized for something that I really don't even feel bad about, simply in hopes of "making up" again and meeting for lunch.
I am so lonely. My best friend just moved several states away! My two closest friends are in others states as well. I think I am just too lonely for my own good. Anyone else do this? Am I some kind of masochist? Geez....I wish I could just take that email back now......
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« Reply #1 on: October 04, 2006, 09:45:42 AM » |
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SadSadWorld......welcome to my world :-) I get lonely too, never been married (not that I didn't want to), just haven't met my Mr. Right yet. I'm lucky enough to have my 14 yr old son in my life. I'm also thankful for my family and even though my one friend, who happens to be married but is cheating (I totally do not agree with that, but that's another whole long story) and always calls me to do things with her too. I guess what I'm trying to say is she even drives me a little nuts and she's really not my most favorite person to hang around with because it's always about "how self important" she is and all her troubles etc. But I put up with it!! Why? Cuz I'm lonely too and enjoy getting out on a weekly basis, even if only to take a road trip to the grocery store, or go out for light dinner/cocktails, to hear her go on and on about the man she's been messin' with (who happens to be a guy I had the WORST crush on when I was a teen, glad to know he's not a good kisser - LOL - guess I'm not missin' much there, and plus he's married anyway!! - JERK and she thinks he's so loyal to her, but I don't believe he is, because I've heard too many stories, but she chooses not to believe that he's interested in anyone sexually but her!! - denial!!) She's pretty self important and I ask myself the same question, why do I hang around her? I hate to say it, but sometimes, I think I might be using her too (I'm very cautious about being used, even if it doesn't include money.) If she only really knew (I want to say jealous, but I'm not really) how much it hurts to hear about (my puppy love) being into her, it kinda sucks. Oh well, I feel your pain. Email me privately if you'd like to hear more :-) We can all use more friends :-)
cyber hug <-------hey UYC, how about a cyber friendship hug icon between two people :-)
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« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2006, 11:36:40 AM » |
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So I had this friend, and she was/ is really self-important, snobby, rude, etc. We had fights. We made up. We had a big fight. We didn't talk for a long time. And for some unknown reason, I emailed her the other night and apologized for something that I really don't even feel bad about, simply in hopes of "making up" again and meeting for lunch.
I am so lonely. My best friend just moved several states away! My two closest friends are in others states as well. I think I am just too lonely for my own good. Anyone else do this? Am I some kind of masochist? Geez....I wish I could just take that email back now......
(ok, why did the same thing happen to me recently??  ) Hi Sad wave, I take it she never responded to your email?? *sigh* I can relate to what you are going through. Some people never grow up and choose to stay stuck on stooopid. So if that's the case then you are SO MUCH BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER IN YOUR LIFE!!  My motto: Life is too short to be stuck on dumb sh*t!  |
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« Reply #3 on: October 04, 2006, 12:30:06 PM » |
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I know how you feel! All of the women I become friends with seem to disappear- move away, etc, due to family, jobs, etc- I have ltos of female acquaintances, and honestly, MK had an allure for me partly because I thought it would be a great way to meet people/friends- and I did, except, now that I'm not in it anymore, my director friends don't call. they only called when I was in their world- they used to call and I them for lunch or coffee, etc- so sad. I wasn't faking my friendship for them, but I know they really are just so into their business, they can't allow themselves to have time for anything or anyone that doesn't have something to do w/ their MK businesses- now that is sad. That is not how I wanted my life to be, and was one of the things that broke the camels back when I was struggling w/ my decision-- luckily, I am married and my husband is my best friend, and I have sisters and sisters -in-law whom I get along w/ as well- so I have my family.
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« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2006, 01:17:58 PM » |
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Hey SSW,
I understand where you are coming from. I've had to move a lot in my life, and being an introvert, it's hard to make new friends.
I have found that I have to be the one to get out and make the effort. I don't remember if you have mentioned your faith or if you have children in one of your other posts. Most of my friendships have come through attending church events (like Bible studies and women's retreats). I've also made friends by chatting with other moms who hang out after school and let their kids use the playground.
I have attended jewelry making classes at a local bead store, and have a few friends through that. If you are "crafty", and have a "Michael's" near you they often host craft classes. I also think my local health food store has some classes there. Maybe there is a book or music store near you that hosts special events. If you start attending events that have to do with one of your hobbies, then you have at least one connection with everyone there.
I hope one of these ideas might help. I know I have a hard time forcing myself to get out (I am a homebody), but after a while loneliness eventually drives me crazy enough to sign up for something.
I should have known MK would not be for me. A homebody-introvert, yeah, MK puts a lot of thought into who they recruit.
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« Reply #5 on: October 04, 2006, 02:13:54 PM » |
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Thanks girls. Yeah, no reply (going on 2 days) so I know that she hates spending time with me as much as I hate spending time with her, so I guess we have one thing in common! I know I just need to move on, so here's to that  . Thanks for your stories, I am glad to hear that I am not the only one. You gals are great. Ug, so many crappy friends to ditch, so little time...... |
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"Some people care 'bout what other people think, worry 'bout what they say. Let a little gossip coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day. Sayin' 'bla bla bla' just jackin' their jaws, gotta let it roll off-a my back. I don't give a damn what other people think, what do ya think about that?" M. G.
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« Reply #6 on: October 04, 2006, 02:22:42 PM » |
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« Reply #7 on: October 04, 2006, 02:24:17 PM » |
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We love you sadsadworld... And you know, you can meet more people who deserve you as a friend.. I always have thought that for a friendship it takes the effort of 2 people. I don't think is fair for you that you are the only one trying to make the frienship work.. You can absolutely find friends that can bring you joy and that you can spend great time with them... I move a lot too.. My hubby is in the military. Years ago i was so shy and it was hard for me to meet people, but I was in the same situation you were. I had a friend just because I felt alone, but you know what? That's just unfair because that would hurt you more and I learn that I deserve better friends, friends that really care for me.. And I know you deserve that too!!! So go out and meet more friends, life is too short for you not to give a chance to meet more people... There will always be friends for a season or a lifetime and you'll know who those people are... But you can absolutely take control of who you want in your life! You have so much to offer as a friend that you need to find someone who can appreciate it....  Love
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« Reply #8 on: October 04, 2006, 02:30:05 PM » |
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Sadsadworld, I so understand where you are coming from. I truly believe we need friends in our lives. But, sometimes we have to let go of some friendships because of one thing or another. I myself have lost a good friend (or at least I thought she was). But, it's time to move on no matter how hard it is. Take this time to make new friends. I'm sure you'll find some here. I sure could use a good friend! Where do you live? I live in Vegas and if we are states apart we can be cyber and e-mail buddies! That would be fun! Take care and live life to it's fullest!!!!  bounce (I just love that one, it's so cute)!! |
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« Reply #9 on: October 04, 2006, 02:31:16 PM » |
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Sadsadworld, I forget I have you Love karma! Thought it might help!!!!! Love Love Love Love Love Love
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« Reply #10 on: October 04, 2006, 02:33:20 PM » |
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« Reply #11 on: October 04, 2006, 02:38:51 PM » |
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Aw thanks! That is so funny, because I do believe in Karma, and I know that by cutting off negative people, I raise my karma and allow for more positive things in my life. But it is the void between the positive and the negative that hurts.....
Anyway, cyber buddies rock! I am in Texas (the great state of Mary Kay, Sick). If you read her autobiography, I actually live near her favorite hospital....Bush's too.
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"Some people care 'bout what other people think, worry 'bout what they say. Let a little gossip coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day. Sayin' 'bla bla bla' just jackin' their jaws, gotta let it roll off-a my back. I don't give a damn what other people think, what do ya think about that?" M. G.
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« Reply #12 on: October 04, 2006, 02:40:20 PM » |
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Yay Sad! (I love my fellow Texans!) In the words of DH, "Go Cowboys!!"  |
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« Reply #13 on: October 04, 2006, 02:57:28 PM » |
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Yeah, forget "put your big girl panites on" and instead "cowboy up!"
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"Some people care 'bout what other people think, worry 'bout what they say. Let a little gossip coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day. Sayin' 'bla bla bla' just jackin' their jaws, gotta let it roll off-a my back. I don't give a damn what other people think, what do ya think about that?" M. G.
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« Reply #14 on: October 04, 2006, 03:43:01 PM » |
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Hey Sad, I think you did the right thing by apologizing. At least you made the attempt and now you know where she stands and you can move on. Your conscience is clear and you don't have the anxiety of holding a grudge.
My best friend lives out of state. We've been friends since the 8th grade. You know she is always there for the most important things and no matter how long we go in between talking, we always "pick up just where we left off". Good friends don't have to babysit each other. If someone is demanding, the friendship can become oneside very quickly. I have one other good friend who has been with me through thick and thin. Other than that, everyone else are what I call acquaintances.
I recently moved to a new town. I lived in my old city for ten years and never made one real friend but my long distance good friends were always there for me.
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