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« on: July 06, 2006, 02:37:33 PM » |
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What were the reactions of your husband/boyfriend to
*your decision to get into MK
*your decision to get out
*the debt you accumulated, if any
*his trust in you from the experience that may affect the future as far as money making endeavors of yours
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« on: July 06, 2006, 02:37:33 PM » |
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« Reply #1 on: July 07, 2006, 07:07:49 AM » |
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My husband was very supportive of my decision to join MK, he didn't even say anything when I busted out a credit card we hadn't used in several years and placed a "star" order. We believed all of the hoopla about how we were going to be better off financially and I wouldn't have to work outside the home. When I decided to leave he was actually resistant, and wanted me to just scale back for awhile - finally I was able to convince him that it really is a scam (he still doesn't like me to call it that, but I think that's exactly what it is) He hasn't said much about the debt. It took me a long time to actually talk to him about it - all said and done, after the refund check was applied, I only have about $1300 left to pay...and I told him my plan for making the payments and getting us out of that debt. I don't know how this will affect any future decisions. He knows me to be successful in my JOB so, I think he knows that MK was just a bump in the road at a time when we were vulnerable.
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« Reply #2 on: July 07, 2006, 07:32:48 AM » |
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My husband did not think it was a hot idea when I joined - but he kept silent and supported me. It was only after I lost a bunch of money and couldn't get bookings that I decided to quit. He was happy I was getting out, sad that I lost the money - and I think he kind of held it over my head for a while after that. Any time I came up with a hare-brained idea he would say "remember Mary Kay?" But I think we're moving past that now.  |
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« Reply #3 on: July 10, 2006, 09:59:07 PM » |
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My husband initially said I should sell it, only because I think he thought it would be cheaper than me buying it all the time. That was all I needed! He was really pro MK for awhile (except he didn't like me going to all-day things for it, lol) then he began to see that I was losing money and not booking enough. At first he blamed me but then he realized that there were too many MK ladies around. When I decided to quit he was a little disappointed that I had put so much in and gotten so little out. He also held it over my head for awhile, but now he sees what a scam MK truly is and is grateful that I got out and sent my product back.
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« Reply #4 on: July 16, 2006, 03:34:18 PM » |
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I used a really high interest credit card that was promptly maxed out with $1800 worth of product I couldn't sell because it was all for older ladies with dark skin (and I was barely 25 at the time--18 years ago). Anyway, I didn't tell my husband about it for awhile, and then I was pretty embarrassed just to even be selling the stuff, and I really didn't like it. He would just get totally PO'd every month when the bill came, and I can't even remember if I sent it back or just gave it away (seriously!) I know I gave a lot of stuff to a friend from church who was a consultant, so I'm thinking that's how I got rid of it. So when I wanted to sell Longaberger, his response was...."remember Mary Kay?" Yeah, well, I didn't LIKE Mary Kay, I just decided to sell it when I had quit my job when #2 was on the way and I got a little freaked out about money. Seemed like a good idea for about a minute, but then I was just too embarrassed to tell anybody that I sold it (have I said that before?!). So basically, I didn't sell MK, I just stored it in my basement.
I did pretty well with LB, but the company pays hostess bonuses and you can do that business very frugally if you try by borrowing baskets if you haven't earned that month's feature, etc. There are only two levels above consultant and you're tracked on sales (no quotas!) After awhile I didn't have time to have shows anymore when our kids got into sports, etc. so I gave it up. When I was telling my husband how my friend had freaked me out about Arbonne and that she had called me and said it would just be better to sign me up to get the 35% discount as a consultant, he just said "please don't".
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Frontloading is not a new thing....me and MK, we go waaaay back. $1,800. My basement. 18 years ago.
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« Reply #5 on: July 16, 2006, 04:03:08 PM » |
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My husband is awesome. He was supportive with me in starting and stayed that way until the BITTER end. He didn't even flinch, bless his heart, when I told him I was quitting my great paying, full benefits professional job to do this crappy scam. I think he lost half his hair just trying to figure out how to pay our bills. He wanted so bad not to discourage me that he couldn't figure out how to tell me to QUIT already because I wasn't making any money. I think he has every right to be mad and could hold it over me, but he never has - not even once. Even though the poor man is still trying to figure out how to pay our bills thanks to MK! I'm truly blessed.  Also, he's a testament to how they can even suck in husbands. He wanted to believe it was all possible, too. He's an attorney (NOT like weird attorney Bill :-X) and would read all the documents, checked out the legality of MK, and even went to Seminar with me. When I was totally failing like mad, I don't think he thought it was me (at least he never implied that!), but I don't think even then he thought it was the opportunity either. He sure does now though! |
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« Reply #6 on: August 31, 2006, 07:28:47 AM » |
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My husband was very supportive and was willing to help me succeed in anyway possible, he even got a couple small sales at work for me. As the months went by and my Director started calling at the most awful time of the evening he would roll his eyes and say that flaky nutcase director  of yours is on the phone. |
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« Reply #7 on: August 31, 2006, 04:40:53 PM » |
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Great Topic!
My husband was supportive of me but not so thrilled with MK. He was turned completely off when we attended an event where a NSD spoke. She seemed cool but the directors that came up and spoke - all they talked about was money and material things. Then they asked people to sign up that night. My husband was miffed at the fact that these ladies professed to be Christians yet they did not encourage the potentials to go home and pray about it first. No there was a mad rush to sign up on the spot.
Another thing that turned him off was that he received a call from my recruiter's husband about how MK husbands should behave. Sick
When I got out, he confessed that he hated my going to stranger's houses. Thankfully for me, he would pray the entire time I was out on an appointment.
He was a sweetheart about the debt and never held that against me. He was just glad that I was out.
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« Reply #8 on: August 31, 2006, 07:26:57 PM » |
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My hubby was also supportive of me but didn't like MK. He saw it for what it was - an MLM. He went with me to a new director debut, smiled and was polite, but I could tell something was on his mind. Later, in the car, he said it was all a joke. He's like "Come on, these people can't be serious!!" and pointed out all the inconsistency he saw. I couldn't disagree, he was right on.
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« Reply #9 on: August 31, 2006, 08:10:59 PM » |
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This is great- So I just found out today that my former sr. was telling people that my hubby and I were having problems, and he was never really supportive, so I had to get out to save my marriage. I just LMAO because well, gulp, so I DID give her that  as my reason, but that was only because I knew she couldn't ever poke a hole in that. I mean, MK has priorities, RIGHT?!?!? What's funny is, yeah, the man and I had some issues, but WHO DOESN'T??? MK is like one big stress pill!!!!  So my honey was supportive at first, and then he got REALLY TIRED of the up and down. The air is a bit clearer at our house now!!!  Okay, so I just have to try this new smiley moon |
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« Reply #10 on: September 02, 2006, 09:43:45 AM » |
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I finally told my husband last night about the true MK... He said, "I know, it is a pyramid and nothing but a scam!" He then asked how much money we had lost -- thankfully, I just about broke even so there was no money lost, just six months of my life! I apologized for all the crap he has had to deal with, and told him I was through with meetings, classes, etc. He told me that I was too smart to keep dealing with "make-up" and that he knew I would find a real career soon -- what a guy! He then said he hoped he didn't get any more calls or letters from my director telling him how wonderful I am and how far I will go in MK -- ughhh, can you believe she did that? What was I thinking ????  Thanks to you fabulous ladies, I am really thinking for the first time in months! |
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« Reply #11 on: September 11, 2006, 06:59:48 PM » |
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My husband was very supportive, but I think he had his doubts throughout. There were many times that he would comment about how much like a cult and mlm it seemd. I would explain the "benefits" and how much money I could make from it..yada,yada, yada. He would just say "we'll see" and leave it at that. For almost 2 years, I was away from home most nights of the week with meetings or classes. My son was 3 at the time and I regret how much I missed of his life. Seminar was what turned me off and I made a decision while at seminar to quit. I didn't tell him until I had finished the commitments I had already made into September. After that last class was finished, I came home and told him I was through. That was hard, but he was cheering my decision and very relieved that would be home more.
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« Reply #12 on: September 11, 2006, 07:36:57 PM » |
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*your decision to get into MK
He trusted me and believed me when I said it would be a way to stay home with the baby and make money. I believed it too.... but he always was suspicious of a company that so heavily used God and religion to motivate its people.
*your decision to get out
Once I realized the truth, he got it too... so he was happy I was quitting.
*the debt you accumulated, if any
He has chalked it up to a big 'learning experience' that he's glad I got out of before it got completely out of control. Also, I have taken complete ownership of the debt I have accumulated and responsibility for earning the money to pay it off.
*his trust in you from the experience that may affect the future as far as money making endeavors of yours
I think he trusts me MORE now. At least, he seems to, and I sure HOPE he does.
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« Reply #13 on: October 10, 2006, 09:21:55 AM » |
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Decision to get into MK:
He questioned it because I had a gravy job at the time and was making a decent income.
Decision to get out:
Total Relief--he shared with me pent up feelings that he had been holding onto for months--I cried.
Debt:
Let's fix it and move on--I LOVE MY HUSBAND!!!
Trust:
He sees what I've learned from the experience and knows that I'm not as vulnerable any longer--He trusts me even more to make sound financial decisions!
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« Reply #14 on: October 10, 2006, 09:37:41 AM » |
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