Dang...I just spent several minutes on a reply, then Precious Miss Kitty jumped on the keyboard and it all disappeared.

Your boss sounds like a bully and bullies tend to pick on those they perceive as weak.
PinkPU, you're probably right on with this. I tend to be very quiet and accepting until I learn the lay of the land and that quietness could be perceived as weakness.
I also tend to defer to those I think of as authority figures, probably due to my upbringing. I was raised in an old-fashioned military family, where an "order" was an order and was not to be questioned, just obeyed.
Regarding other job options, I live in a tiny little town, surrounded by other tiny little towns, so the job market is very limited. I have submitted my resume & a ton of applications in some of the larger areas around, but so far no luck. So I really need this job for the time being.
And, Jyp, he's the owner of the place, the only motel/diner in town, so he's tops in the chain of command. Kind of king of all he surveys, you know? Which is, I think, another contributing factor to his arrogance. He has a paper taped on the wall over the server station..."Some dumb a$$ things that WILL NOT happen again", with a list of transgressions underneath. The "dumb a$$" is highlighted in yellow. I wonder if he discussed the issues with the staff, or just posted the list and called it gospel. I don't know...
Last week, he put his hands on his hips and glared at me, "Didn't anybody TRAIN YOU?!?!". That's when I found myself
really feeling the need & desire to feel his throat in my hands, literally. (maybe I have anger management issues, as well?)
Which brings me to another problem...the training. There is no formal training agenda and I am trained by other part-time servers. Their training method is "well, this is the way I do it, but you just do it however you want to."
In my other job, I was responsible for standardized training plans and procedures, and know the value of a real training agenda.
And thanks, DwDIQ, for reminding me I am expending precious energy on anger. I have tried ignoring his comments, but find myself just getting angrier as it builds up. I HAVE to diffuse this situation asap or I'll find myself broke AND broken.
Thanks, Kathy...for the hugs, prayers and good wishes. Trust me, just walking out in the middle of his harangue and leaving him to do it all has been a temptation more than once. And your

are valued!
So I'm hearing this from you...approach the situation in a level-headed, honest manner without being confrontational.
Ok...here's the plan. I'll go in early today and try to catch a few minutes alone with him. I'll tell him how much I do enjoy working there, but explain how his attitude and behavior affects my work. Then I'll ask for examples of where my work was not up to his standards and ask for suggestions for improvement.
Maybe I'll suggest a more formalized training plan for newbies in the future?
And if that doesn't work, just cut my losses and go on ?
Feedback?
Thanks so much for giving me your prayers, time and thoughts on this. I appreciate it more than you can know.
I really want to make things better for myself, as well as for my workplace. And I don't want any of you to get to know me better by hearing about me and workplace violence on CNN...

Love to all...