Done, glad that both of you are thinking of the kids.  But don't think for a moment that they are not picking up on the tension.  It is also important not to say or type words or things that can not be taken back.  Once "it" is out, it is always there.  Maybe the two of you can try and pinpoint the source of the discord and work together to resolve it.  My  but it does seem as the two of you do love each other and the kids.  PM me if I can be an ear for you.  I have been to hell and back and maybe what I have gone through can help someone else.  Prayers still coming your way.

   I'm so sorry Done!  PM or IM me anytime girlfriend! 

I'm late to this, but Done, it seems to me that just the fact that you two are willing to try this unconventional (but potentially excellent) way of working through this tells me that there is a lot of hope for you guys working this out.

I know it helps to put things in writing because one does generally think it through more thoroughly.  It just seems like a really good way for y'all to "talk" this out.

Anyway, my thoughts and prayers are with you too.   Love

It has been said that the stressful point is a marriage is the "seven year itch."  But nowadays it seems that it is the 3 year itch.  The dating, wedding, honeymoon and first year are over.  Reality of this is life has started to take hold and there are no instructions to marriage.  At this point there are decisions about the future Mr & Mrs and what about this and what about that.  Do we do this, go there, buy that house, have a family or change careers.  Sometimes, and this may seem too simple but it works, each of you make a list of all the things that are good and all the things that are "bad" about your marriage.  When you look at both lists and discuss them you might just find that things you think are the size of an elephant are actually fleas.  Please remember to keep in mind the things that made the two of you a couple as you look at the lists and discuss the items.   My and life experiences, hope it helps.

Normal is not usually the problem.  If it were, they would be easier to resolve.  The list method is a good tool for many different uses.  Good luck and know that you are in my prayers.

Ditto, PPA and Done.  I am here for both of you if you ever wanna chat...  My honey and I have made it almost 9 years, and it still amazes me...

Men can be insane, and they usually don't understand why we think they are crazy.

My prayers for both of you PPA and Done!

I've been also married for 9 years and even though we are happy NOW! It has been tough in the beginning.. I always think that comunication is KEY!
DOne what you are doing with emails is a great idea, I have done it myself when I feel I can't control myself and want to scream my head off. Is always good because I can always go back and see what I am writing and I can express my point of view easier. When I was pregnant I was extremely emotional and sensitive and that helped me pass my point across withouth YELLING and that way it wouldn't affect my Little E.

ANyway, prayers to you both and I always said that if is not a woman involve or physical violence any problem can be resolve in a marriage.