This is so hard to admit, and I haven't to anyone else, but I am hoping some of you can relate. As I've mentioned in other posts I am expecting my second child at the end of June. This was a planned pregnancy and very wanted. However, I can't help but having some of these feelings as the big day gets closer. I'm a SAHM and dad works alot so my son and I are very close. I'm wondering how the new baby will change our relationship and how I will have special time for him still. I'm also feeling guilty that my next son will never have that special one-on-one time that my first had. I know this child will be loved just as much and our family will change-all for the better. SO if I know this in my head why do I still carry this guilt and worry. Anyone else feel this way when the second child was approaching? Any suggestions how to just get over it? I feel like a terrible mom for even having some of these thoughts!
 

I felt exactly the same way!  But there is plenty of room in my heart for both of them.  No, we don't have as much one on one time as we used to.  But when we do manage a little, it is all that much more special.

Thank you SO much for your kindness and reassurance. I guess it's just hormones but I teared up  :'(reading your support-  You don't know how much it helps to know other moms have felt this way too. 

Sweetie, I agree with all of the others.  If you didn't feel the way you are feeling, we would think you were ABNORMAL!    

Once your second child arrives, you will be amazed at how much LOVE you have to give.  God doesn't give us just a certain amount of love at the time of birth -- the love we have inside continues to grow and grow and grow so everyone receives just the right amount.

Best wishes to you!!   

What everybody says here is so true...it's hard to get your mind around it right now, and you look at your child and think...OMG, how can I possibly love anybody as much as I love you?!

But you do and what Kathy said is the perfect way to express it.  My oldest is 20 and I remember feeling the same way you do right now, so it is very common.  It's just one of those things that you can't imagine until you actually experience it.

Congratulations and good luck with the new baby!

I can't tell you any better than anyone else here that "Yes" you are normal! Just remember that your first son will also go through an adjustment period.....

Someone once put it to me like this: How would you feel if you husband brought home another women and said "isn't it great she's going to live with us forever and ever"? That is how your son might feel if he isn't as prepared as you can make him for the new baby. Sometimes you can prepare them until you are blue in the face from talking and the older child will still have some jealousy....You've already got it figured out how to avoid most of that....make sure he still has his own special Mommy time! Good for you!

I used to let the older children colour with washable marker on my belly as a way for them to play with the baby before they were born....and no I didn't have any trouble with the kids wanting to colour on the new baby after he was born

Good luck! The girls ahead of me gave you some fantastic advice!

That is pretty much how my poems come to me...I try to think of how someone feels about something/someone and what they are trying to say and then my word angel just starts a talkin' to me! 

I felt so many of the same feelings that you are having.  My dd was only 6months old when I got pregnant with my son.  I felt sooooo guilty when I had to stop nursing her at 8 months.  I felt like I was taking something away from her.  And then I felt guilty for my son that he wouldn't get that special alone time with me that dd did.

But I discovered that I did have alone time with him.  They almost never took naps at the same time in the beginning.    I could hang out with him when she was sleeping and vice versa.  You'll be surprised at how quickly they will bond together and that is a beautiful thing to see.

Just know you are NOT alone.  We all have those feelings of guilt.  After all, we are moms.  I think that is how God programmed  us.

Good luck to you