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« on: February 23, 2008, 11:56:24 PM » |
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I had some make a comment at work, and it is really bothering me. She got really upset, and I tried to talk to her, and I still don't really understand what the big deal was. I apologized (not really sure what for, but just trying to smooth things over) and she seemed ok, but now I can't seem to let it go. I still think she was being a big baby, and it came out on me. I know I need to just let it go, but it is festering in my brain!
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« Reply #1 on: February 24, 2008, 10:37:20 AM » |
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You made the comment or someone else did?
I used to get really upset if I thought someone was talking about me. The older I get, the less I care about their petty issues!!!! LOL
But I must say that if it is a friend or a loved one, I will try to get to the point of it and work it out!
Sometimes I will talk to the person if I feel that I need to apologize or defend myself! LOL, so I guess I vote, all of the above!
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« Reply #2 on: February 24, 2008, 01:14:18 PM » |
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A girl at work said something about it (in the middle of a fight) and later said that she didn't mean it the way it came out, but she did think it about me. And I am trying to deciede if it is true about me or not....
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« Reply #3 on: February 24, 2008, 01:42:25 PM » |
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Ahhh, I'm sorry this is hurting you so much! Sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment that they really don't mean, because they are grasping at straws to find something that will hurt you! Let's say you are a very giving person, but one day you decided to do something for yourself, trust me, that will be brought up in a fight, even though that is not you! Does that make sense? Sometimes people are just mean and anything you do or say will be twisted to fit their point! HUGS  |
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« Reply #4 on: February 24, 2008, 02:32:29 PM » |
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I have found that most things said at work are said in the heat of the moment and you need to just examine what was said, if it's true, fix it if not, just forget it! Sometimes what people say isn't really the issue, it's just something thrown out as a "red herring" and what they are saying isn't what is really bothering them!
If it's something hurtful a friend or family member said, then I would try to talk it out and resolve it!
The older I get the easier it is to let things "roll off my back" so to speak. So most of the time it depends on the comment and who said it.
I have found that most of the time if I just send out a silent prayer asking God to help me let it go, because I don't want to feel angry or hurt, it seems to calm things for me and it's easier to "shake it off".
I know I am rambling, hope this makes sense.
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« Reply #5 on: February 24, 2008, 08:51:32 PM » |
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I've also found that something that may have been said about me might have only been fitting in that instance, and is not as a normal, regular part of my personality (ie, if I had a bad day, or stressed at work). So it could be that both sides are right & just need to work it out.
However, for the most part, I really don't care what anyone says, especially if they are NOT close friends or family & they all know me and would nail me for doing something out of character.
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« Reply #6 on: February 25, 2008, 01:07:07 PM » |
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I've also found that something that may have been said about me might have only been fitting in that instance, and is not as a normal, regular part of my personality (ie, if I had a bad day, or stressed at work). So it could be that both sides are right & just need to work it out.
I think you are spot-on. That is what I concluded about the incident. What she said was true about that MOMENT, but not about ME. She doesn't really know me, so I can't take her comment personally or as an acurate judge of who I am. |
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"Some people care 'bout what other people think, worry 'bout what they say. Let a little gossip coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day. Sayin' 'bla bla bla' just jackin' their jaws, gotta let it roll off-a my back. I don't give a damn what other people think, what do ya think about that?" M. G.
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« Reply #7 on: February 25, 2008, 10:04:52 PM » |
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I think most people have a vulnerable side, and it's easy to talk big about not caring what other people think......however we all have that inner child that is sensitive and can be hurt if the right button is pushed! Sounds like this girl managed to push your button and I am so sorry that this is bothering you! You are right to confront her with your feelings, but if she feels that you are blaming her she's going to get defensive and not want to talk about the situation. Or maybe she's an immature person that cannot behave like a civilized adult and feels that it is okay to attack someone else's feelings...(even if it's in the heat of the moment) This is wrong! And this would bother me too! Talking is always better that passive aggressive, silent treatment! That irritates me to no end, and we have a gal at work that does this! I can't decide if she's moody and unhappy or just a genuine queen B? Try not to care, but when I have to work with her it's a miserable 12hrs! Good luck! Hope it all works out well!  |
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« Reply #8 on: July 01, 2008, 01:59:56 PM » |
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I give that question a big fat NO. The only thing that bothers me is when someone goes around telling people something that is a lie about me. Lying is my pet peeve. I feel like my head will explode when I'm lied to.  |
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